We're tricked into thinking everything we do in our life needs changing radically, and that we need to make massive changes to start seeing a more enjoyable life, but it's a trap, you really can create an incredible life with small steps and changes, and I want to show you the ins and outs.
We've all promised ourselves things for the new year that we're going to change and it's going to transform our life, but these changes never normally survive January and if you don't stick with something for long enough, you don't give yourself chance to start reaping the rewards. Once February comes round and our new way of life is just a thing of the past, we feel terrible about ourselves and our brains are saying “See, I told you that you couldn't do it” which discourages us from trying and failing again down the line, whereas if you start off small, have some success and start to notice the benefits of the change you've made, you develop some confidence in yourself and your 'I can' muscle has been strengthened. The benefits of the change + your happy feelings connected to your small win should be all you need to light up a fire inside you to carry on making improvements in your life.
Suited for you
Big lifestyle changes and fads come in and out of fashion and it's cool one minute and then forgotten about the next. Things like intermittent fasting, becoming vegan, becoming a minimilist or reading everyday have recently come in and out of the spotlight and lots of people jumped at each of them and had their own attempt at doing them but the motivation for these things disappear as quick as the fashion because once nobody is talking about it anymore, nobody wants to do it. Changes should be suited to your life, each person is at different levels and stages of the various areas of their lives and some of the big changes can be too generic to actually have an effect. The best way to approach it is to look at your own life and try and workout what 1 single change could have the biggest ripple effect across your life and concentrate on it until it's part of your nature.
Don't let other people tell you what you change about your life, decisions on YOUR life should be made by YOU, to improve the quality of YOUR life.
Small wins add up
People underestimate the importance of small wins or starting off small and building your way up, it really does build strong foundations for your success and your success is going to be much easier to maintain if it is built on strong foundations. All major successes, no matter how big, are just a load of seemingly unimportant successes added up over time. That little annoying task or the workout you can't be bothered with or that salad when you were craving chocolate may seem like it doesn't matter, but it's these sorts of things that are repeated regularly that create the outcome of your life. If you look at someone successful who you admire, try and workout what some of the small wins they would built together to create the impressive success they have today.
Your awareness builds
Once you have a few small successes, and have realised how good making these small changes feel, you will be on the lookout for ways to make small changes wherever possible and once you open your awareness up, you will start noticing things in your own and other peoples lives that if they were slightly tweaked or a small change was made, would make ripple effects throughout lives. I didn't ever realise I could actually improve things about my life, I was not conscious whatsoever but even by noticing things, I started to learn more about myself and who I am as a person.
Over time – different direction
Over a short amount of time, changing something in your life doesn't really make the effects you were hoping for because the change doesn't have enough time to start working, whereas if repeated over time, the small effect of each time you repeat it adds up and creates the bigger picture. The pyramids couldn't have been built without each small win of laying down a brick. I want to try and make this idea clear for you, think of a car, if you steer the wheel slightly, you barely move but if you steer and keep driving, you end up at a very different place than if you were to keep the wheel still. Think about where you are going to end up if you keep going in the same direction you are now. Do you want that or not? Make changes accordingly.
Multiple small changes vs 1 big change
We'd much rather do 1 thing that ss going to completely transform our life in an instant but it's not always possible to make this sudden big life change, so why not focus on making lots of small changes and successfully doing so instead of repeatedly failing at something that is currently a bit daunting to you. Small wins and small changes I try and make everyday are the way I greet people, I no longer say “I'm alright”, but instead say “I'm brilliant thank you, how are you” and I am constantly trying to be on the lookout for small improvements to the meals that I'm eating everyday. If you take care of things like this, you end up being healthier, having better relationships and enjoying yourself a lot more, don't be tricked by the important of something at first glance, you can never see the full benefits of doing something, without actually doing it. Eat an extra portion of veg today, smile at make conversation with the person you normally ignore & stop telling yourself you're not good enough all day.
You're already amazing
In a world of self improvement and dreaming of more, we often fall into the trap of thinking that we're not good enough, and this so easy to believe because why would you be trying to improve if you were already good enough? The key here is to have a good self image, because if you think you're already amazing, you love yourself and want to make more changes because you know this is important for a happy life, whereas if you think you're useless and destined for a shit life, you won't be very motivated to start making changes in your life and will probably view the very act of making improvements as an attack on who they are and what they do. My mantra that I enjoy repeating to myself whilst working, walking and driving is that I'm “Outstanding but improving” and this is a constant reminder to myself that I'm amazing, but than I also plan to keep improving.
A change in your life doesn't have to mess up all your schedules or have you question everything about who you are. Knowing the fact that I can completely change & improve any area of my life by making some small changes here and there was very inspiring for me and has helped come to terms with creating the life that I want to live, and hopefully this has given you this understanding too because there are so many people out there that have lost hope and don't even realise the power they have, and I want you to do everything you want to do in your lifetime and have the impact that I know you could have, so if you have any questions or comments, please get in contact and we will get you moving
in the right direction